Oral Sex Techniques

Oral sex oral sex tips: These are the first in an ongoing series of questions, answers and advice on cunnilingus, fellatio and oral sex techniques.

Below you'll find some of the answers we've written up to email questions we've received on female oral sex technique for better oral sex. We will keep adding to this list over time.

What about HIV and oral sex? I'm a guy. Can I catch it from female oral sex if I don't use a condom?

Yes unfortunately you can. There is a possibility that you can become infected with HIV through performing oral sex on woman or receiving oral sex from a woman. Obviously your female partner must already be infected by the HIV virus for it to be transmitted you. Despite there having only been a relatively small number of reported cases of infection from cunnilingus or fellatio the risk is still a very real one and the full extent of the risk is not yet quantified or known. Evidence suggests it is less risky than unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse.

If the woman fellating you has HIV then it is possible that blood from her mouth may enter your body. The cells lining her mouth may possibly transmit HIV to you. It is possible that blood could enter through the the lining of the urethra, the tube through which you ejaculate and urinate, via the orifice at the end of the penis. It is more likely to enter directly into the body though small cuts, open sores or even grazes. If she's performing anilingus or rimming then blood can also enter your body through the lining of the anus.

If you perform cunnilingus on an infected woman her vaginal fluid may also contain the virus.

The risk of HIV transmission increases if you or she performs oral sex with cuts or sores around your mouth or throat; if a lot of vaginal fluid enters your mouth or if you yourself already have another sexually transmitted disease (STD).

The actual risk of infection through oral sex is relatively low. You need to choose if you want to take that risk though. To give you a real world example, from my experience I would say a significant percentage (40%-60%) of UK high class escorts do not use protection when performing fellatio but do so for full intercourse. There has been no HIV outbreak.

Don't forget though you can also catch other STDs (Sexual Transmitted Diseases) and STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections) from oral! It's not just about H.I.V.

What are the best oral sex tricks for protection from STDs and STIs?

There are a number of tricks you can employ to protect yourself from STDs and STIs during oral sex. The most effective method is to stick to a single partner in a monogamous relationship. Unfortunately this isn't really practical or exciting enough for most people. The next best thing is to use latex or polyurethane as a barrier between you and your partner. This includes the use of condoms and dental dams. These will prevent the transmission of STDs and STIs by skin to skin contact or by fluid transmission.

When working as a male escort an old trick I used to use was to place an open flavoured condom into the corner of my mouth before going down on a woman. This way it didn't spoil the mood and at the same time protected me. You can try this.

The more common STDs and STIs to be transmitted during cunnilingus and fellatio are Herpes, Gonorrhea and H.I.V. The less likely are HPV or genital warts, Hepatitis B, Syphilis, Chlamydia and Chancroid. The real risk of infection through oral sex is relatively low. You need to choose if you want to take that risk though.

Do you have any oral sex tips for men so I can try a better oral sex technique on my girlfriend tonight?

There is no magic technique we can teach you in a two minute email. It is my suggestion that you try to start to look at sex in a different way. Your sexual relationships with your girlfriend should not be goal orientated. You should also know that unfortunately learning physical techniques alone does not arouse the mind of a woman. It is the mind or brain that creates the pleasure and the orgasm. My suggestion is you try to relax and enjoy the love-making you are already having and increase the communication with your partner. With increased communication you will discover more about what she wants and likes. You need to master arousing her mind and then her body. Check out our products for more details as its hard to give a detailed answer with no background information on your situation. Techniques are best learnt from videos or in workshops.

Do you recommend an oral sex position?

You can do it in almost every position. Missionary position is the most commonly used. Any position that enables relaxation and or increased arousal is fine.

Is my oral sex good? My girlfriend keeps asking me "is the oral sex great" that she's giving me. What is the best way to respond?

If you are enjoying what she is doing then you should definitely let her know. Tell her yes, its great I really enjoy it. Everyone likes positive reinforcement and it encourages her to repeat the behaviour. If she isn't doing the best oral sex in the world then you should also let her know, but carefully. There are ways of doing this. One suggestion is to ask her to try doing it in a different way without drawing attention to the fact that you don't like what she is currently doing. This way she saves face, she doesn't feel self conscious and you both get what you want.

Do lesbians have secret lesbian oral sex tricks that guys don't know about?

In a word, no. The type of love-making that women have with other women is often more consistently sensual than between a man and a woman, although this is a generalization. More sensual love-making can help relax both a man and a woman and therefore increase arousal. But no, there are no secret lesbian oral sex oral sex tricks that only women know and can perform.

If you have any questions on giving great oral sex then please get in contact. Over time we will keep giving oral sex tips and adding to the list of oral sex techniques so you know all there is to know about male oral sex technique, too.